An open letter to Shobhaa De.

Dear Sobha De, I see you know very well that we live in the largest democracy of the world and we are allowed to enjoy the freedom of expression to its funniest extent.I am not a BJP Supporter and I do not belong to a defined group of feminists but I simply don't agree with the facts ,sentences and the misleading and unresponsible piece of your work published in THE WEEK. LeT'S COME TO THE POINT! JASHODABEN.....I accept I did't know her a week ago and I still choose to know her as a stranger NOT in a sad position as you have introduced her in your column.I am very surprised to see the use of your words for a lady who has't uttered a single word about her personal or professional life. DITCHED by her husband?? Is it the right word to explain a story of a lady who chose to struggle and succeded.Do you have any idea what it takes to start a fresh after such incident.I guess this is the reward for the struggle and the determination of a woman by a woman .You seem very concerned about her futur? why? JashodaBen did't need any help or concern and does't need a prime ministerial Bungalow.It is you and people like you who are shouting and trying to name her Mrs. Modi.Officialy she has no intentions to be known as mrs. Modi and she has no interest in enjoying the perks which comes after being a wife of a famous political leader. you are calling her a lady of zero identity?what do you think of yourself?I think you have misunderstood the words fame and popularity with identity.She is not famous like you but she exists in this world with a lot more dignity and identity in comparison to the women who are forced to live with their husbands with a bundle of compromises and restrictions and rejections and ignorance on the name of marriage.I am not saying what Mr. Narendra Modi did was right but it would have been worst if he would have kept her wife by his side restricting her right to live on her terms.You have said that she was forced to live with his brother and was dependent on her brother. This statement of yours makes me remember: " hamare yahan to ladki ki doli maayke se uthti hai aur sasural se to bas uski arthi" shadi ke baad to aurat ka sasuraal hi uska ghar hota hai......many more....! so you are basically establishing the fact that without a husband ,women has no identity but if she choose to live with her husband or husband forceS her to live with him without any intentions of fullfilling the marital vows, then the identity zone of a wife is safe and I deny it. COMING BACK TO YOU...(How did you suvive?.......heaven knows.........glorify) SHE SURVIVED AND SHE WON! and nobody knows how she managed. This is the glory of a woman.I request to writers like you to choose your words carefully because India is not a country of fools.She has not sacrificed her life ,she has lived her life. For herself and for the children she taught,for her brother who practically fulfilled his duty towards her sister.Don't label her as a BECHARI because she is not.you are calling her life a loveless life.c'mon! there are much more dimensions to love.A married life and living in a house with husband or boyfriend or a partner does't guarantee a lovefull life. She is a MISLEADING women or are you?.She is not trying to lead anybody.She is not trying to prove anything,she is not trying to get anything,she is not trying to keep quiet.She has chosen to keep quiet because she is very strong not because she is weak.It is her right to express herself by her silence.Try to understand what her silence says! I would like to answer you on her behalf: I need not to expose Mr. Modi.This is not a scam.This is my life and I have chosen it this way.yes! What happened was not what I liked and expected but I don't like holding grudges and complaining.I believe in action.I believe in forgiving.I believe in moving on.I am the woman who accepted a husband's rejection and followed a friend's advice. Yes! A man can walk away from his innocent wife without a backward glance,forgetting his duties but credit goes to God's justice and to the constitution of the world's largest democracy ,he will have to acknowledge the identity of a woman at some point of time as Mr. Modi had to. I never used his name or position to get anything.Please don't use it now to snatch my peace. my words...! dear miss De!woman is not a topic to write.you can't impose your opinions just because you are famous.one can interpret relations but you can't define relationships. It is the hightime for the society to accept that woman don't need a husband to safeguard their identity. It is the hightime for women to understand that there is much more to life than being somebody's wife. I apologize if I hurt somebody by this.! Nidhi bharati,8.25a.m.Varanasi